The most important self-defense against psychopathic seducers consists of recognizing the initial warning signals so that you can escape the relationship early on, hopefully before you’re seriously harmed. Joseph Carver has put together a helpful and instructive list outlining the early symptoms of a dangerous relationship with a psychopath, or as he puts it quite aptly, with “a Loser.” As we’ve already seen in the previous account of Drew Peterson’s behavior, not all the signs of psychopathic seduction are obviously negative.But, as we’ll see, even the symptoms that seem positive (such as the instant attachment and over-the-top attention, flattery and gifts) are in fact negative.You tell your friends, "They were so into me at first, then things got weird, they were unreliable, they hurt me without realising it, there was so much drama, etc." It could be you dated a sociopath.9 SIGNS YOUR PARTNER MAY BE CHEATING ON YOU Even his children’s needs come a distant second to his. Their focus is very good, and if they want you, they’re totally focused on you. Wait until they’re bored with you — their attitude will change very quickly. I’ve realized from some of my relationship experiences that is quite possible to date someone sociopathic or with sociopathic tendencies.It is nothing like the movies and “NCIS” episodes, so I share some examples of what “real life” sociopathic behavior can look like.
Sociopaths lie and cheat as easily as you and I breathe. Statistics vary — some say 1 percent of the population is sociopathic and others say 4 percent. 5 UNEXPECTED BENEFITS OF DATING A YOUNGER PARTNER So if you're single and dating, you’re likely to come across one … He began with criticism, went on to name-calling and moved on to physical violence and (probably) murder. “The Loser,” Carver notes, “has very shallow emotions and connections with others.It’s very important to get away from a Loser at the slightest hint of violence, including verbal aggression, since abuse usually increases in frequency and severity over time. One of the things that might attract you to the Loser is how quickly he or she says ‘I Love You’ or wants to marry or commit to you.