Be willing to forgo the idea of perfection and find a REAL man. ) Here are some action steps to get you started: • Get honest with yourself by getting to the core of your belief that there are no quality men. If you believed otherwise, how would it change your dating experiences? (Listen, I was the master of this, but finally learned how I consistently self sabotaged.
And when I saw it, and dealt with it, my life changed.
A 2003 AARP survey of 3,501 single men and women aged 40-69 showed that 63 percent were dating.
An additional 13 percent wanted to find a date, while 14 percent were interested "if the right person happens to come along." Almost half of those surveyed stated that their main reason for dating was "to have someone to talk to or do things with." Companionship is incredibly important at every age.
I’ve mentioned before that my attitude towards commitment has changed a bit over the last year or so.
I hate to put it so bluntly but I think you need to accept that most of the men you’re meeting don’t plan on dating anyone for very long.Yours will too.) Here are your action steps: • Write your list of qualities, values, and behaviors that attract you and that you expect in a man with whom you spend time.• Review your list and decide: does this man exist?Take some advice from a gal who has been there, finally figured “the man-thing out,” got married at 47 and now enjoys a stellar relationship with the perfect man…for me. I mean, after all, if every man you meet is unworthy then there is no risk you’ll actually start dating or get in a relationship!There are two things you can do that will immediately improve your experience with men: 1. Know what you want and must have, and make sure it’s the “Grownup You” doing the picking; not the 18-year-old who still expects all kinds of wacky things that no longer matter and wouldn’t make you happy anyway. Aren’t your “quirks” what you want men to love about you? • How does this belief impact your actions (or inaction), and how is that affecting your outcomes? Yep, that’s a surefire way to avoid ever being hurt or rejected.