By understanding these issues and knowing how to respond, you can support the man you love without threatening the relationship or your emotional wellbeing.
Note: We discuss the following insights in the context of dating men, but they apply equally to women.
It makes us desperate enough to look outside ourselves for someone to rescue and save our lives in every sense of the word. Then when they are in their 30s they want to find this last hope guy. Girls should be desperate and lonely in their 20s, We guys are. And like the Poet Rilke says Love is the work for which all other work is but preparation. To be alone feels like 100, no 1000 cold daggers stabbing you deep in your heart. This is nature tell you to go out there and find your other half. I talk to Eastern European girls who have their Ph D’s and are super successful directors of large companies.
If you are single and not desperate and not looking that is totally messed up. Here is the full quote: For one human being to love another human being: that is perhaps the most difficult task that has been given to us, the ultimate, the final problem and proof, the work for which all other work is merely preparation. You feel this most depressed at night or when then sun goes down, around holidays in the winter, basically most of the time. Since I teach them English I get to talk with many girl one on one about things like relationships and love as it is often brought up in conversation. Don’t you want some leggy super hot girl, and I mean real beauty like on a magazine cover, looking into your eyes with her swollen soft lips, whispering in a somewhat depressed, but soft alluring voice ”I need you, I am so lonely and I desperately need you’.
So the person you’re dating has admitted they have depression. You really don’t need to change how you treat them or dramatically alter your behaviour.
They feel the need to qualify things with statements like ‘ I am not desperate’ . Many Americans behave like if you do not have a boyfriend or girlfriend that looks like someone out of a J. If you date someone, but they are not your one and only, that is messed up.It’s a crucial moment in the relationship, so be sensitive and do not judge.Thank him for trusting you with this information he has most likely not shared with many people.Yes being single, lonely and depressed is a good thing. American girls, on the other hand, would give you a look like you are some freak and all kind of weird vibes after that.Take it as a sign or a call to action in American speak. See what happens is many American girls are serial monogamous daters until their 30s for this reason. American girls like this are horrible to date if you ask me. This is how you are supposed to feel when you do not have your other half. I teach English one on one and I will tell you what I learned.